I think some people find "the one" but others never do. Not that there isn't someone out there who they would love for as long as they were alive, but they just weren't meant to be with someone as "the one." If they had a "one", they would have found that person. But instead they go through a series of relationships, and some may be successful, but none last. Or maybe they stay single for long periods of time.
I don't think God (or fate, whatever you believe in) sets up certain people for other people and then never has them meet.

i can agree with that last line

As someone who has been raised in a really conservative christian setting, I was always told that G-d had chosen someone for me and I was destined to meet this person.


Fuckin fairy tales.



I stopped believing that last year. There are people who are naturally more compatible, and others who aren't, but I personally believe that everyone CAN make a relationship work.

Vonnegut actually really changed my view on this in Slaughter House 5. Where the character is taken into space and forced to live with the movie actress. Anyway.

thanks for telling him that yvonne. i try to tell young people that their young and someone will come along, but i don't know if they believe me. everyone's just gotta live their life the best they can and poof! one day... mr. or mrs. right will appear.

PS:
and even if God did have the "right one" picked out
for us, who is to say that's who we'd choose anyways,
cuz God gives us freedom of choice. some of us make
great choices, some of us bad choices.

i dont necessarily believe in one person for everyone, but moreso one TYPE of person for everyone. different personality types are detrimental to our mental and emotional health. we need the ones that fit with us and are able to advance us as people and, for some of us, in our walks with God.

well said.

No, I don't think there IS a "the one."

Other than the reasons already mentioned, here's my thinking, in a nutshell. Ok, let's say you find "the one" and everything is going great. Then one day "the one" decides that you are not "the one." You're screwed and are forced to settle for "less."

There's actually way more to it, but that alone makes me not even want to believe in "the one" in the first place.

My saying that to Gail just meant that I don't think Mr./Mrs. Right is out there at all (though my friend's dad, whose last name is Wright, tells me all the time that he's Mr. [W]Right).

I would trust gail on this one, experience tends to count for a whole fucking lot in this department and she's seen more years of ye old romantic struggle (or romantic apathy) than we have. Being jaded about it when you're so young is just a burn mark, hell, I have a little faith about this area working out.

What if you believe in "the one" and you're already married to someone who's not it?

i never married "the one". he left me. so i married someone who was compatible at the time. i loved the guy, but still...i settled for less because i didn't have the confidence to keep on looking because i thought no one else would ever love me again. not that he was a "bad" guy... just not as compatible emotionally/intellectually as i would have liked.

i really do think that there's nothing wrong with a series of relationships if one doesn't work out. go your separate ways and look for someone else to fullfill what you desire. unfortunately, i still believe that God says otherwise tho. damn.

PS: even tho i said "mr. right", i don't believe there is only one. not by a long shot.

one more thought...yea...also sad when your "one" isn't their "one". i'm sure that happens all the time. lots of broken hearts out there, that's for sure.