Ok, so I come across people on a regular basis who actually think that there is one specific person who they're just meant to be with. I'll hold off on my thoughts for a while, I just want to know what you guys think, and more importantly, WHY?

I'm completely at odds with this whole sentiment. While I believe that there is someone for everyone, I don't believe that there is ONE specific person. I may have to collect my thoughts a bit before I go further in detail.

I guess I think that God puts different people in our lives that he wants us to be with and it's up to us to have a relationship according to his standards and not screw it up. Maybe.

Romantic relationships seem very arbitrary to me. For that reason, I find the idea of "the one" preposterous. Not to mention quite insulting, considering the amount of toil and suffering that goes on in the world as it is, leave alone the idea that people are fated to find a Westernised Hollywood concept of amorous attachment. In the time it's taken me to type this, people in the world have died before even having had the chance to reach puberty, so don't go and tell me that you can't see beyond your own bubble where everyone has a fairytale Barbie-style wedding with a pumpkin carriage.

^Erik was very amused by the whole fairy tale Barbie wedding with a pumpkin carriage thing.

Thanks for the thoughts.

Oh, Erik read that? Maybe it was a good idea I removed "fucking" before the fairytale Barbie wedding sentence, then.

I believe that people are meant for people. Not everyone is meant to get married though. Paul was single.

So did I, Ben. hahaha.

everybody's mind develops in incredibly unique and complex ways. among different personalities, caused in part by sheer thought process, caused in part by past experiences, as well as some genetic predisposition, some manage to fit together well, and for a variety of different reasons which I won't get into for obvious reasons.

I think the way our minds (basically, us) connect together is what determines our relationships with anybody and anything. there's no way there could be just one person for every one person, because we like a LOT of people. the way those feelings develop depends on sososo many different factors. which I also won't get into because they're virtually indefinite and vastly varied.

but for those reasons I think that many different people could be the "right" person in certain situations and at certain times in a person's life, and it's also possible to become the right person. and to be the right person and then stop being the right person. the human mind, emotions accounted for, is continually shifting and people are always changing. it's not so easy as One to One.




I may have just been rambling.

I think Yasmin did a good job of explaining the same way I feel.

i don't believe in this concept of 'the one'

why? age and experience, for the short answer

i'm not sure who posted it but i tend to be in agreeance that there may be divinely-backed encounters, but the two people involved are the ones who ultimately decide to make it work or botch it. botching it doesn't mean you've missed your only chance, i think we get second ones because we are meant to be together. however, i don't think this is the centerpiece of God's plan for anyone, as much as many people try to make it the apex of their religious existence.

I think realistically the best thing you can hope for is someone whose company you enjoy, doesn't drive you crazy, loves you for who you are (to varying degrees) and is a decent lay. I think most people can't love in that deep, consuming, driving way, they just aren't emotionally or psychologically capable of it. Then again, a few people are.